A few resources to support growth and learning. This is a partial list, with many more out there.
Equity leadership skills for How we will do the work together
Listen actively; listen to understand.
Speak for yourself, share your experience.
Share air-space; move up, move back.
Name a dynamic.
My normal may not be your normal.
Intent vs. impact.
Stay engaged, stay in relationship.
Be open to feedback, ask clarifying questions.
Expect and accept non-closure.
Be aware of your feelings and thoughts. Stay present to your experience.
We engage with these skills in the context of power and privilege. Beyond platitudes and ‘nice attributes’, we get to truly grapple with how our dynamics in relationships and systems are based in oppression and hurt. Embodying these ten skills gives us a fighting chance at creating a liberated world.
ORGANIZATIONS AND GROUPS
Power and Privilege
Banjali, Mahzarin: Blindspot- Hidden Biases of Good People
Davidson, Ellen: Open Minds to Equality
Goodman, Diane: Promoting Diversity/Social Justice: Educating People from Privileged Groups
Latner, Teishan ed: The Quotable Rebel-Political Quotations for Dangerous Times
Neito, Leticia: Beyond Inclusion, Beyond Empowerment
Racial Equity and Social Justice
Alexander, Michelle: The New Jim Crow
brown, adrienne maree: Emergent Strategy
Coates, Ta-Nehisi: Between the World and Me
DiAngelo, Robin: White Fragility
Kivel, Paul, Uprooting Racism; How White People can Work for Racial Justice
Oluo, Ijeoma, So You Want To Talk About Race?
Tochluk, Shelly: Living in the Tension, the Quest for a Spiritualized Racial Justice
williams, angel: Radical Dharma-Talking Race, Love and Liberation
Kivel, Paul: Living in the Shadow of the Cross
Tokumitsu, Miya: Do What You Love and Other Lies About Success and Happiness
Weber, Max: Protestant Work Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism
Adams, Maurianne: Teaching for Diversity and Social Justice
Ayers, William: Teaching for Social Justice
Delpitt, Lisa, Teaching Other People’s Children
Howard, Gary: We Cannot Teach What We Don’t Know
Milner, Richard: Start Where You Are, But Don’t Stay There
Moore, Eddie, The Guide for White Women who Teach Black Boys
Schniedewind, Nancy, Open Minds to Equality
Tatum, Beverly, Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together In The Cafeteria?
Waston, Dyan; Hagopian, Jessie; Au, Wayne: Teaching for Black Lives
Zinn, Howard, People’s History of the US; Teacher's Edition
Bridges, William: Managing Transitions
Incite!: The Revolution Will Not Be Televised: Beyond the Nonprofit Industrial Complex
Kanter, Beth and Sherman, Aliza: The Happy, Healthy Nonprofit
Kulik, Carol, Human Resources for the Non-HR Manager
La Piana, David: The Nonprofit Strategy Revolution
Lipsky, Laura: Trauma Stewardship
St.Onge, Patricia: Embracing Cultural Competency: A Roadmap for Nonprofit Capacity Builders
Class and Money
Lewis, Nicole and Resource Generation: Between a Silver Spoon and The Struggle-Reflections on The Intersection of Racism and Class Privilege
Pittelman, Karen and Resource Generation: Classified
Tessler, Bari: The Art of Money
Women and Internalized Sexism
Askerman, Robert: Perfect Daughters
Dellasega, Cheryl: Mean Girls Grown Up
Deak, JoAnn PH.D.: Girls Will Be Girls
Dufu, Tiffany: Drop the Ball
Lipsky, Laura van Dernoot: The Age of Overwhelm: strategies for the long haul
Wiseman, Rosalind, Queen Bees and Wannabes
“Definitions belong to the definers—not the defined.” -Toni Morrison, Beloved
A living document of terms, updated often with definitions based in US current and historical context.
ALLY: A lifelong process of building relationships based on trust, consistency, and accountability with marginalized individuals and groups of people. It is not self-defined; efforts must be recognized by the people we seek to ally with.
BIAS: Everyone has it. Prejudice in favor of or against one thing, person or group compared to another, usually in a way considered unfair. Implicit bias is unconscious, explicit bias is conscious.
CO-CONSPIRATOR: “What we do in action, not just in language,” Alicia Garza, Black Lives Matter. “It is about moving through guilt and shame and recognizing that we did not create none of this stuff. And so what we are taking responsibility for is the power that we hold to transform our conditions.”
CULTURE: Learned and shared values, beliefs, languages, and customs of a social group.
CULTURAL HUMILITY: A lifelong commitment to learning about one’s self as a cultural being in relationship to other cultural ways of being; it is a commitment to self-reflection and self-critique, recognizing and redressing power imbalances and developing mutually beneficial partnerships with and within culturally different communities.
DISCRIMINATION: Acting on/from bias or prejudice.
EQUALITY: A state, quality, or ideal of treating everyone the same.
EQUITY: A state, quality, or ideal of being fair and just within the context of historical and current power dynamics.
GATEKEEPER: A person or position that controls access and criteria for access to resources.
GENDER: Socially constructed categories of masculinity/manhood and femininity/womanhood not based on biology. Cis gender: person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.
INTERSECTIONALITY: The theory that individuals can face multiple threats of discrimination when their identities overlap a number of minority classes: race, gender, age, ethnicity, health and other characteristics.
INCLUSION: A state, quality, or ideal of being a part of a group or structure where the inherent worth and dignity of all people are recognized and respected.
OPPRESSION: prejudice +power (institutional and historical); systemic devaluing, marginalizing and disadvantaging of certain social identities in contrast to the privileged norm; when some people are denied something of value, others have access ex. Systemic, institutional, and interpersonal.
PRIVILEGE: Unearned advantage. Systemic favoring, enriching, valuing, validating and including of certain social identities over others. Individuals cannot ‘opt out’ of systems of privilege; rather these systems are inherent to society.
POSITIONALITY: Status of a person beyond hierarchy often reflective of dominant and power based norms.
RACISM: A system of privilege based on race. In today’s context that means discrimination of people of color by white people. Internalized racism: internalization by people of color of the stereotypes/myths about members of their own group, including themselves.
SEXISM: A system of privilege based on gender. In today’s context that means discrimination of women/trans women by men (cis & hetero dominant). Internalized sexism: involuntary belief by women that stereotypes/myths about women that are delivered to everyone in a sexist society are true.
WHITE FRAGILITY: The way white people have extremely low thresholds for enduring any discomfort associated with challenges to white peoples racial world views.
Materials sources and adapted with deep appreciation and recognition from CompassPoint Nonprofit Services, Jacqueline Elena Featherston, and VISIONS, Inc.